Attempting a challenging selection course like BUD/S takes everything you have to make it. You will be challenged physically to your maximum, but also internally in your own head when the days turn dark, cold, wet and sandy with near constant negative feedback being hurled at you by instructors. What do you do? Is your WHY big enough? Did you prepare your body well enough? You need more than just being able to meet the physical standards – you need a very strong WHY.
Here is an email from a young Navy Petty Officer whose Navy career did not quite go as planned.
Hey Stew, I know you like to use the #neverquit and sign your books with “Never Quit” on them, but I did quit. I feel like I failed and have no motivation to train anymore. Any advice? I would really like to get out of this funk and get motivated to do something again. Signed BUD/S Dud.
First of all, you have to get over it and realize it happens. 75-80% of the people do not make it through Navy SEAL training from either quitting, failing to meet the standards, injury, or doing something stupid and getting kicked out. But you cannot think of this as a failure. In my opinion, there are only successes and learning experiences. No failures. So, what did you learn?
Did you learn what your strengths and weaknesses are?
Did you learn you were not physically prepared? Too many weaknesses?
Did you learn you want to go back again and try harder with your preparation?
Did you learn that this Special Warfare job is not for you?
Did you learn you need to work on your mental toughness?
Did you learn the Pacific Ocean is much colder than anything you have ever felt?
Did you learn that being uncomfortable all day long is something you have to get used to? (Wet, sandy, cold, water comfortability)
Did you learn that running in soft sand is a butt kicker?
Did you learn that load bearing training is real? Did boats and logs crush you?
Did you learn you did not prepare yourself to get Through the Training?
My advice is to look deep and why you quit. What was the moment or was it a culmination of events that snowballed on you? Most of the time, when people quit, they hit that moment of being physically exhausted with very little optimistic foresight to suck it up – and fail to see that this moment will end. This requires a strong WHY. Why do you want to do this? You need to find that out. Then come to terms with it and say, “I quit because I was not prepared.” “I quit because I could not handle the cold.” “I quit because I realized being a SEAL was not for me.”
The world would rather hear you say what you did and not make excuses of why things did not go your way.
The fact that you even attempted something so challenging says a lot about you. Don’t let that drive to succeed at a goal die with this “learning experience”. We all have something in our life that we quit, or failed, or regret. You cannot live in the past and you have to drive on today and tomorrow with a new goal and work even harder this next time to achieve it. Man up – recognize you made a decision, live with it and grow stronger from it.
I have BUD/S classmates that did not make it through training as well and many stayed in the Navy longer than I did, made Master Chief and Admiral even. Some became pilots after getting their college degree. Some joined the Army and became Army Special Forces. The thing you have to remember is you can let this one event of quitting rule your life and forever be a quitter, or you can say, “I am never going to feel like this again and I will succeed / never quit (again). “
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