Help Me Get This Monkey Off My Back!
Are your family, friends, and co-workers noticing that you get easily upset? Are you yelling, screaming, swearing, throwing things, banging your fists on the desk? Is your driving out of control to the point of road rage, as you "bob and weave" in and out of traffic lanes and make obscene gestures to other drivers?
Anger is a normal feeling and an emotional reaction to a frustrating situation or encounter. It can also be unhealthy. The physical consequences can be heart disease, stomach troubles, headaches, back pain and even sleep disorders. Moreover, the effects to your many relationships can be tremendous: your spouse, children, family, friends and others in the workplace. Anger can even ruin your self-esteem and self-worth.
The emotions of anger can be positive or negative. For example, I stepped on the scales and became angry when I discovered I had picked up a few pounds, but instead of throwing my bathroom scales across the room and shattering my bathroom mirror I decided to point my anger in a different direction. I decided to visit with a nutritionist and a personal trainer. I turned the angry feelings into positive and more adaptive ones, a healthy release. Perhaps you've been angry lately for many reasons. Maybe you've been angry at your spouse, your children, co-workers or friends and you're at a loss on how to resolve the feelings of anger: how to get the monkey off your back.
It's time for you to get this anger monkey off your back. It's not about never getting angry, because that's impossible. Rather, it's about finding more positive ways to cope and conduct yourself.
You may have an anger problem if you answer yes to any of the following:
4 Ms. Vicki Quick Tips to Get the Monkey Off Your Back in a Hurry:
To get the monkey off your back, you should consider taking an anger management class, visiting a book store and reading some self-help books, or even have a few visits with a therapist or counselor. It's important for you to realize the underlying causes of your anger. On the surface you could assume it's about an uncaring boss or co-workers, or an unavailable spouse, etc. However, your anger could be about something much deeper that should be resolved. Unresolved anger can become worse and prove detrimental to you and your most important relationships.
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Ms. Vicki is a native of Dallas, is married to an active-duty Soldier and has three sons. She has a Master's of Science in Social Work from the University of Louisville, is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and currently works as a therapist with military servicemembers and their families. She provides services for a wide array of concerns such as combat stress, PTSD, couples and marital problems, depression, grief and loss, stress and coping.
Ms. Vicki also writes an advice column "Dear Ms. Vicki" that appears in the Washington Times, the Fort Campbell Courier and the Heidelberg Herald Post. Ms. Vicki also hosts an internet radio show and blogs on her community site with the Washington Times. If you want to ask Ms. Vicki for advice about your military life, please email her at AskMsVicki@military-inc.com.
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