Dear Ms. Vicki,
I'm a junior in high school, and my boyfriend is a senior. He joined the Army when he turned 17, which was not too long ago.
He goes to Basic Training in June or July. He is going active duty, and he says that he could be stationed anywhere. I plan on signing myself in October, but I still have one more year of high school and then college.
I'm afraid that if I'm not around that he might cheat on me or that he won't love me anymore. We have been together for a long time. He says that he is going to propose this school year. I'm just worried.
Hell, yes, he's gonna cheat on you, Tiffany. There, you heard it from me.
He will probably hook up with other chicks in his platoon, in other companies and in and around town, too. He will be only 18 when he leaves home for the first time. That's what 18-year-olds do.
Now, I'm not saying that young love won't survive the test of time. I meet many couples who met in high school, and they have been married for a thousand years. It happens, and it can happen to you too.
I'm one of those women who looks back on her high school loves (or so I thought they were at the time) and I thank the good Lord often that He didn't give me the first few guys I thought I was in love with.
Of course, you don't hear anything I'm saying to you right now. You wish I would fall off the face of the Earth because I probably sound like your mother, and I honestly don't want to sound like your mother.
I want to be your voice five, 10 or 20 years from now. So let's say this guy really is the one, your only true love. You already feel like you have lived a lifetime and you want only him because you have seen it all. (Please note: I am NOT saying you should go sleep around with every man out there. Lord, NO!)
What I am saying is that you plan on signing up to join the military in October. Good for you. Good for your boyfriend, too.
Both of you should be very busy with your junior and senior year. Just chill out, relax and let life take its course. Everything will be just fine and will work out just the way it should. If you start stressing and worrying, mistakes will happen -- mistakes that you can't go back and correct.
It sounds like you are a very smart, bright young woman. Just give yourself a chance.
Tiffany, I really am a nice lady. Stay in touch with me.
-- Ms. Vicki