The Perfect Valentine: Say I Love You Like a Spartan

The Perfect Valentine
Does the perfect Valentine or Valentine's Day experience exist? (Stock photo)

Until I met my husband, I never had a Valentine. There was something about that day that made boyfriends break up with me. Usually on February 13.

So Valentine’s Day makes me nervous. Because I never got over the idea of it. I want there to be vats of flowers—not the icky dry ones that you get on Vday, but gorgeous blossoms coaxed from seed by my one true love. I want a white steed with a ribbon harness led to my door. By someone wearing a cape. I want “I Love You” to be etched across the sky in clouds. Real clouds. And I don’t think that’s too much.

Consequently, Valentine's Day makes my husband very, very nervous. Because he thinks “Love, Brad” across the bottom of a pink card ought to be plenty.

In civilian life, he would be right. But when you live in Sparta all the time, you learn that the words I Love You -- while still the three most beautiful words in the English language -- lose their power over time. Brad thinks that Spartans learn to say I Love You by saying I See You.

I see how you took our kids to the space museum when it would have been so much easier to watch TV.

I see how hard you are working when your email date says 4:42 a.m.

I see how you keep reading that textbook when it would bore me to tears.

I see the tender way you speak to our children, how firm you hold the line, how much you do to keep our life together so that I have something wonderful to come home to.

I see you. I see you. I see you. These are the words that keep people together in a society in which so much of our effort, so much of our worth, is unseen. These are words when scrawled across a card or typed into an email get read and reread and saved forever. I See You. That is the kind of Valentine that makes any other pale in comparison.

Keep Up with the Ins and Outs of Military Life 

For the latest military news and tips on military family benefits and more, subscribe to and have the information you need delivered directly to your inbox.

Show Full Article

Military Spouse Videos

View more