My husband and I have been married a little over two years, so the “when are you going to have kids?” questions have started. I don’t mind these questions, and usually just smile and say “not yet.” Unless, of course, someone is touching my stomach when they ask such a question, and then I freak out and stop eating ice cream for a week or so and drag out the WiiFit. The husband, as of late, has stopped looking green when “the question” is asked.
We are both excited about starting a family, and we’ve started talking about it terms of someday soon rather than just someday. Are we ready? Ha. I doubt anyone is ever ready to be a parent, but we are working on figuring out how our ideas about parenting mesh. While usually ready and willing to compromise, these are points he is holding firm on:
- First, our children, regardless of where the Navy sends us must cheer for Baltimore sports teams. No offense to anyone else, but the husband would consider it mutiny for a child to cheer against the Ravens. He realizes he is dooming them to a life of baseball misery by mandating they cheer for the Orioles. He seems okay with this.
- Second, despite my push for literary or interesting names (I am an English major after all), he is adamant our children won’t have “hippie names.” What exactly counts as a “hippie name” I’m not sure, but I’m pretty sure we won’t have any little Dweezil’s running around. Unless of course he's at sea... Just kidding honey!
- Third, our children will play dodge ball, tag, and kick ball. They will play in the mud, get dirty, and not whine about it.
Honestly, I'm torn. Obviously, I would like him to be home as much as possible for the birth and babyhood of a potential little one, but letting his work schedule dictate such an important personal decision, especially when it is always subject to change, makes me a little bit uncomfortable. Then again, I am totally new to even thinking about this side of Navy life.
So, all you moms and dads out there, how did you decide when to start a family? Did military schedules factor into the decision, was it purely a personal decision, or was it a mixture of both?