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A Double-Edged Sword

My husband is waiting to see where we'll PCS to next. Our top choice is an installation that is 30 minutes away from his parents and seven hours away from mine.

As you can imagine, this is a double-edged sword.

Oh, and did I mention that I just gave birth to the only grandchild on both sides of the family?

I get along well with my in-laws, so I'm not too terribly worried about living that close to them. I think it will be nice to have a go-to babysitter and dogsitter in town.

But my poor mother is heartbroken that she's going to be the left-out grandmother...

I hate the feeling I have that we are somehow choosing one set of family over the other.

In the military, it's rare to get the opportunity to live near relatives. I am happy it's even remotely possible, and I keep reminding everyone that it's far from a done deal and may not even work out the way we'd like. And there's no way I want to pass up the opportunity to live near family just so no one feels left out. There isn't an Army post that's closer than seven hours from my hometown anyway, so it's not like we're intentionally snubbing my relatives.

But try as I may, I can't quite convince my mother that they won't be the forgotten grandparents...

Have any of you experienced this, where you get stationed near one set of family to the dismay of the other side? How did you keep the distant family from feeling like they're left out of the loop?

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