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When DH retires

Do you ever daydream about what your house will look like when your spouse finally retires/separates from the military and you stop moving? I read magazines with lots of great decorating and organizational ideas (and I NEED organization in my house!) and there's lots of great stuff out there. Then I realize I don't have a house to call my own. I do my best to make whatever house I live in cozy and comfortable, but I don't buy curtains or anything "super-special" because I know I have to leave it all behind.

I really want to go antiquing and refinish some old pieces... but I don't want to buy more things to get banged up or ruined in a move. DH and I need a new bed (ours is literally falling apart after 12 years of moving) - but will the new one just get banged up in future moves? Probably.

DH and I often talk about our retirement home and what we each want in that home. He reaches 20 years in the Army in 3 years... THREE years! When we got married it seemed like we had a lifetime in the Army ahead of us. And now the possibility of retirement is creeping up and I am almost excited... almost.

The flip side of this is that I don't know any life outside the Army. We got married right before we finished college and I was only 21 years old. My husband has no idea what he will do with his life when he finally retires. Can I retire and live in one place for more than 3 years without getting the "itch" to move?

I feel a bit foolish even thinking about, let alone worrying about, retirement when it's at least 3 years away, if not more. But for some reason it has been on my mind a lot lately.

Calling all retiree spouses... can you help me? How did you adjust? What are some tips/advice?

I have no idea when DH will actually retire, so I probably need to just let things ride. For now, my home is where the Army sends me... curtains or not.

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