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Coping mechanism, "not looking at the calendar" fail...

When DH was deployed the last time, I vowed to stay away from the calendar. Some folks count down to the return of the soldier, and I had tried that with deployments prior. I found it to be similar to looking for a needle in a haystack.

So, on the last deployment, I had decided that I would take all calendars down. When bills came in, I made them out, and mailed them. I never knew what day it was. Looking back I am not really sure if this helped me make it through the deployment any differently, but I thought it was worth a shot.

What it did, was create a nasty habit of never knowing what day it was. I would go into a store and go to pay for groceries, and there were days I would be so thrilled that I would be 2 weeks behind. "Really it is August already?" However during that time, I would note I had missed a friends birthday, or an appointment.

This morning on facebook I noted a friend's status was "taking the kids to the dentist."

Oh, oh ...we have Dentist appointments coming up.

So thank you to my friend for the reminder, they are tomorrow morning at 8am.

Avoiding the calendar, is a terrible way to cope with time. It still passes. Time to put on my big girl panties, and actually look at the darn thing.

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