Do you WANT to Know?


This post is a bit of a take-off on the post below, where I discuss how little white lies during a deployment are often used by military couples in order to protect each other from unnecessary worry. After re-reading the post, and the comments, I was reminded of yet another conversation that took place at SpouseBUZZ LIVE.

Do you want to know everything that's going on where your spouse is? Putting aside the fact that you and your spouse operate on a "don't ask, don't tell" basis, if that's the case, do you want to know?  In Killeen, though everyone seemed united on the need to hide stress from their spouse, there was no such consensus on the desire to know.  ArmyWifeToddlerMom didn't want to know. Her rationale, "because he may have to do this again." Others felt empowered by knowing what was going on, but that too has its problems, as was illustrated by one wife as she described the horror of hearing her husband's FOB being shelled in the background just before he had to abandon their phone conversation.

I'm curious by nature, and like to be well-informed, but for some reason, I can't quite answer this question. I'm just not sure if I want the full story. The different opinions, and the reasons behind them, are fascinating to me. Add yours - Do you want to know. Why or why not?

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