Okay, the title is not exactly correct. I'm not clueless about college savings, or retirement savings. I am clueless about the ways in which families make their choices. I don't claim that there is any "right" way to save, or not save, for a child's college education and/or for retirement. However, when some people tell me the reasons that they've made certain decisions, I do feel a little befuddled.
For example, a recent comment got me thinking. I'm going to edit it a bit to protect the identity of the author, but I'll make sure you get the main points.
We just rolled our daughter's 529 over into USAA (their financial advisors are salaried, non-commission based). This way we can automatically deposit money into her account every month.I disagree with many of the things said here. It is great that this family has set up a 529 for their child, and of course I approve of their move to USAA, but the second paragraph just doesn't sit right with me. I know I am going to offend this reader, and I apologize, but I want to open up the discussion to everyone.
My parents never saved for my college & as a result left me with $125K in student debt. My dad always made sure to pay into his 401Ks, annuities, pensions and such at the various oil companies that he worked at over the years and when he died 3 years ago, I was left paying over $6K in taxes on my inheritance. His priorities were skewed. Just like the old business adage says "Take care of your customers and they'll take care of you" well I believe if I take care of my daughter, she'll take care of me. I believe it's irresponsible for parents to not save for their children's education.
First, I can not imagine how the reader's parents "left her with $125K in student debt." It was the reader's choice to go to college, and it was the reader's choice to take out student loans to fund that college. There are 101 ways to go to college without going into debt. You can work first then go to school, you can go to the community college first, you can get a job that has tuition benefits, you can apply for scholarships and grants, you can babysit and mow lawns and lifeguard.
Second, from the narrative, it seems like the reader's parents were financially independent until they died. Lucky reader! Being financially responsible for an aging parent is a huge burden, and it often hits at exactly the time that the children are raising their own children. If a parent has done what they could to prepare for retirement, and still needs help, it is awesome if the kids can help. However, it is fabulous gift when parents can prepare properly and not be a burden on their children.
Third, waa! The reader had to pay $6K in taxes on an inheritance. I'm sorry, that is a sad complaint. Again, it is a gift when anyone receives an inheritance. Why not just be delighted and thankful?
Fourth, I completely disagree with the reader's opinion that "it's irresponsible for parents not to save for their children's education," especially when she has tied this together with the idea that the child will be responsible for caring for the parent in the future. Perhaps this is because I have four children and the reader has one, but I think it is more of a philosophical difference.
I have told my daughter's that Mom and Dad will make sure that we are not a financial burden on them when they are older, and we will absolutely do everything we can to help support their educational pursuits within our financial abilities at that time. However, they are expected to work hard, get good grades, apply for scholarships, and make educational choices that are consistent with our family's financial situation. If this means that they go to a state school vs. a private college, or have to put off grad school until their employer will pay for it, that's OK. If it means spending summers on top of the lifeguard chair instead of in the pool, that's OK, too.
So, I'm curious. I know this is a subject that has a bjillion different thoughts, and none of them are wrong. What is your opinion on college savings alone, or college savings vs. retirement savings?