Ms. Vicki is a native of Dallas, has been the Dear Abby for the military community since her column began in 2005. A licensed therapist and licensed clinical social worker, Ms. Vicki holds a Master of Science in social work and a Master of Arts in clinical psychology.
Ms. Vicki appears regularly on Military.com and in the Fort Campbell Courier. Her column has also appeared in the Washington (D.C.) Times and in the Heidelberg (Germany) Post Herald. She has been featured on CNN, CBS, ABC and NBC.
Dear Ms. Vicki, I met you not long ago when you and your team visited the spouses at Dover Air Force Base. You were amazing, and I used a lot of your advice. Much to my dismay, my husband and I divorced after he retired last year. Yes, I was devastated. When your husband comes home out of the blue and says "I'm not happy and I want a divorce,"... more
Dear Ms. Vicki, I have a quick question for you because I know you will give me an honest answer: Do you think it's fair for my husband to still be friends with all of his exes on Facebook? They're all on his Facebook and he follows them on Instagram too. He keeps saying they are all only friends and that he has known them for a long time.... more
Dear Ms. Vicki, I married an Army officer two years before he retired. I thought I would be making out big and would establish a good future for myself by marrying a man with a great retirement income and who was still capable of working and starting a second career. I discovered the type of man he really was about two years into the marriage... more
Dear Ms. Vicki, Why is it that whenever we see someone in uniform -- from any branch of service or in law enforcement -- we are told that they are held to a higher moral standard, when in reality they aren't? In my case, a service member flirted with my wife, had an affair, and she left me for him, taking our kids with her. When you're doing e... more
Dear Ms. Vicki, My husband and I were childhood sweethearts. He joined the Marine Corps at 20 years old and I went off to college -- life happened. Twenty-plus years later, we reconnected. By then, he was divorced and I was widowed. We have been married for seven years now. We are both 48 years old. He retired from the Marine Corps as a major,... more