Ask Ms. Vicki

Ms. Vicki

Ms. Vicki is a native of Dallas, is married to an active-duty Soldier and has three sons. She has a Master's of Science in Social Work from the University of Louisville, is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and currently works as a therapist with military servicemembers and their families. She provides services for a wide array of concerns such as combat stress, PTSD, couples and marital problems, depression, grief and loss, stress and coping.

Ms. Vicki also writes an advice column "Dear Ms. Vicki" that appears in the Washington Times, the Fort Campbell Courier and the Heidelberg Herald Post. Ms. Vicki also hosts an internet radio show and blogs on her community site with the Washington Times. If you want to ask Ms. Vicki for advice about your military life, please email her here.

Cycle of Abuse

Ms. Vicki

Ms. Vicki, I've written this letter three times to try to express what is going on properly, but now I just need advice and figure I'll just come out with it. I have been married to my Marine husband for three years. We had a very short engagement and married quickly. Because I have two children, I decided once we were married to stay put ... more

Husband 'Dragging His Feet' on Sponsorship?

Ms. Vicki

Dear Ms. Vicki, My husband and I have been apart since June 2014. We are currently waiting sponsorship for my son and I to join him in Germany. I recently found out my husband has cheated more than once. He's still not telling me the full truth, and I feel like he's still sleeping around with the female soldier. We are not sure w... more

What to Do About a 'Dirtbag' Stepson?

Ms. Vicki

Dear Ms. Vicki,  I have heard the phrase, "When people show you who they are, believe them the first time." I absolutely believe this when it comes to outsiders, but what do you do when it is your own family? My stepson, who became my stepson at two and lived solely with my husband and me until he moved out at 18, is, in all honesty, a di... more

My Ex Won't Get ID Card for Our Son

Ms. Vicki

Dear Ms. Vicki, My ex-husband and I divorced in 2001. He retired from the military in 2007. We had one son together who went to live with his father at the age of 12. Our son is now 19. He is still legally his father's dependent, but his father won't get him a military ID, help him with his financial aid or other financing for school, or even ... more

Transition Pushes Soldier to Breaking Point

Ms. Vicki

Dear Ms. Vicki, This fall, my darling husband of 12 years made the transition out of active duty and is now going back to school for his graduate degree. The past few months should have been the happiest time of our lives. He's home, no stress of deployment, and we found out right after we moved that we are expecting. I also found an amazi... more

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