Ask Ms. Vicki

Ms. Vicki

Ms. Vicki is a native of Dallas, is married to an active-duty Soldier and has three sons. She has a Master's of Science in Social Work from the University of Louisville, is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and currently works as a therapist with military servicemembers and their families. She provides services for a wide array of concerns such as combat stress, PTSD, couples and marital problems, depression, grief and loss, stress and coping.

Ms. Vicki also writes an advice column "Dear Ms. Vicki" that appears in the Washington Times, the Fort Campbell Courier and the Heidelberg Herald Post. Ms. Vicki also hosts an internet radio show and blogs on her community site with the Washington Times. If you want to ask Ms. Vicki for advice about your military life, please email her here.

How Can I Find My Missing Service Member?

Ms. Vicki

Dear Ms. Vicki, I've been married to my military husband for almost nine years. The problem is that before we were married a year, he got sent to South Korea. The time apart made us grow apart.  I have tried to contact him because I need help, but he always shuts me down. I've tried with the Inspector General, but it only causes me proble... more

Enlisted Spouse Offended at Being Asked to Be 'Pourer' at Event

Ms. Vicki

Dear Ms. Vicki, I am wondering if you have ever heard of a "pourer" at a coffee for military spouses? I was asked to help out with a welcome coffee for a general's wife. Some of the officers' wives came up with the idea of having a senior enlisted wife (me) or lower ranking officer's wife as a pourer for the general's wife. I was told it ... more

He Seesaws Between Staying and Going

Ms. Vicki

Dear Ms. Vicki, My husband and I have been married for several years. Every time he deployed, I remained faithful, honest, trusting, loving and supportive. Four deployments later, he has decided he "can't live like this anymore." All was going great until earlier this year, after he came home for his block leave. He started going to bars m... more

Teens Are Driving Us to Divorce

Ms. Vicki

Dear Ms. Vicki, My husband and I have been married for 16 years. We have four wonderful children. We have reached a point in our lives where we no longer agree on how to raise them -- especially our teenagers, I believe it's our responsibility as parents to correct any back talking they do by punishment (something creative). My husband thi... more

Is My Sailor Avoiding Me or Is It the Deployment?

Ms. Vicki

Dear Ms. Vicki, My husband is currently in the work-up cycle and preparing to deploy. I initially attributed his increased irritability, lack of communication, lack of intimacy and depression to stress. However, things have gotten worse and I am becoming increasingly concerned. While he was on detachment a couple months ago, I barely hear... more

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