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Ms. Vicki

Ms. Vicki is a native of Dallas, has been the Dear Abby for the military community since her column began in 2005. A licensed therapist and licensed clinical social worker, Ms. Vicki holds a Master of Science in social work and a Master of Arts in clinical psychology.

Ms. Vicki appears regularly on Military.com and in the Fort Campbell Courier. Her column has also appeared in the Washington (D.C.) Times and in the Heidelberg (Germany) Post Herald. She has been featured on CNN, CBS, ABC and NBC.

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Should She Anonymously Report His Affair During Deployment?

Ms. Vicki

Dear Ms. Vicki, I'm writing you because I am in the middle of a moral dilemma. One of my dearest friends has been having trouble in her marriage ever since her husband got back from deployment in December. She and I no longer live near one another; however, we've been talking almost weekly about this and I've done my best to be a supportive fr... more

Ex-Wife Wants to Know If He's Cheating Their Kids Out of Benefits

Ms. Vicki

Dear Ms. Vicki, I am the primary caregiver for my children and the information that I need is for their benefit. I was married to my ex-husband for 16 years, and we have three children together. After 10 years of marriage, I found out that he had had an affair and we separated for about six months. Then, after he got out of the Navy, we recon... more

Did Her Husband Fake His Death or Is She in Denial?

Ms. Vicki

Dear Ms. Vicki, I have a very unusual problem. I do not know if my husband is dead or alive. My husband, Steve, served in the Navy for more than 20 years. He passed away in May of last year -- or did he? I always thought we had a great relationship. We got along great, we laughed together, we traveled a lot with each other, and he gave me wo... more

Is His PTSD to Blame for Him Wanting a Divorce?

Ms. Vicki

Dear Ms. Vicki, I know no marriage is perfect, but I need to know if my husband's PTSD is making him push me away, drink too much, reach out to ex-girlfriends, and continue flirting with a female Marine. My husband and I have known each other for 11 years. He enlisted in the Army in 2010, we married in 2011, lived at Fort Drum, PCS'd to Fort ... more

Vicki: My Marine Says I'm a Gold Digger

Ms. Vicki

Dear Ms. Vicki, I came across your page while looking up bad marriage stories. I'm 19 years old and my high school sweetheart and I have been together since seventh grade in 2008. On December 22nd 2015, just over a year after our senior year, we got married. I love him very much but he continuously lies to me. I'm in school and working a mini... more

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