Ms. Vicki is a native of Dallas, is married to an active-duty Soldier and has three sons. She has a Master's of Science in Social Work from the University of Louisville, is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and currently works as a therapist with military servicemembers and their families. She provides services for a wide array of concerns such as combat stress, PTSD, couples and marital problems, depression, grief and loss, stress and coping.
Ms. Vicki also writes an advice column "Dear Ms. Vicki" that appears in the Washington Times, the Fort Campbell Courier and the Heidelberg Herald Post. Ms. Vicki also hosts an internet radio show and blogs on her community site with the Washington Times. If you want to ask Ms. Vicki for advice about your military life, please email her here.
Dear Ms. Vicki, My husband cannot seem to keep his pants zipped. To my knowledge, he has had three very intense affairs. The last one was about 18 months ago. I was packing my bags because I was walking out the door and ready to file for divorce. I was done. He begged me to stay and to work through this to try and save our marriage. I was... more
Dear Ms. Vicki, You recently posted an article about a May/December relationship and I wanted to write you and say that I am in a similar relationship with my girlfriend. I fight all of the time with her kids (ages 17 and 24) because they call me a kid. Her kids call me bossy and mean. They won't let their mother have a life. My girlfrie... more
Dear Ms. Vicki, I have two questions for you. I am eight months pregnant, and my husband and I are both in the military. I recently found out by his other baby mama that they kissed and have been spending time with each other while I was on leave. Is that considered adultery? Also, if a military wife has a husband away for a tour of dut... more
Dear Ms. Vicki, I'm a civilian in Atlanta, but I work for the Army. I need some advice. I'm meeting up with a soldier this weekend from Fort Benning. He's coming to Atlanta to spend the weekend and visit me. Hopefully, we will have good chemistry, and we can move forward in establishing a beautiful relationship. I'm a 45-year-old single wo... more
Dear Ms. Vicki, My wife has gained a lot of weight. This is not the problem. The problem is that she is fatter than I am, and she makes fun of my weight gain. I've put on a few pounds since I returned from my last deployment about a year ago. I'm making a plan to lose about 25 pounds. I'm exercising more and trying to eat better. I take my... more