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Another Woman Caught in an Online Romance Scam

Ms. Vicki

Dear Ms. Vicki,

I have been speaking to a man who says he is in Stuttgart, Germany, and says he wants to come back to the U.S. to meet me on leave. He asked me to go to a website to send in a request for him to visit me so that he can be granted leave.

I need to know if this is a legitimate URL or something that will possibly open a virus that can steal my online information? The URL he said I should go to is [redacted].

What is the process to request that a soldier be granted leave to come home? He has never asked me for any money. Thank you for your help.

-- Just Curious

Dear Curious,

There's an old saying: "Curiosity kills the cat." He is not legit.

It appears the more I warn women against this scam, the more letters I receive from women with the same scenario as yours asking me if this is real or a scam.

This is a scam. If I were you, I would cease all conversation with this person. Hope this helps.

-- Ms. Vicki

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Ms. Vicki, a native of Dallas, has been the ‘Dear Abby’ for the military community since her column began in 2005. A licensed therapist and licensed clinical social worker, Ms. Vicki holds a Master of Science in social work and a Master of Arts in clinical psychology. Her column has appeared in the Washington (D.C.) Times and in the Heidelberg (Germany) Post Herald. She has been featured on CNN, CBS, ABC and NBC.

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