Hi Ms. Vicki,
I just broke up with my girlfriend and she won’t leave me alone. She calls me continually, literally hundreds of times a day. She broke out the windshield of my brand new Camaro, vandalized my apartment and stole some of my things. She harasses my other friends and family and she even threatens to make trouble for me and my career by coming to my unit.
I don't know what she may do next. Any advice?
It’s called stalking and it is a serious crime. Stalking is underreported by men for many reasons. Men report feeling ashamed and embarrassed when they are victimized by a female.
I don’t want you to blame yourself but you should take immediate action. I won’t belabor the point, but here are a few quick tips below that will help.
Ms. Vicki is a native of Dallas, is married to an active-duty Soldier and has three sons. She has a Master's of Science in Social Work from the University of Louisville, is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and currently works as a therapist with military servicemembers and their families. She provides services for a wide array of concerns such as combat stress, PTSD, couples and marital problems, depression, grief and loss, stress and coping.
Ms. Vicki also writes an advice column "Dear Ms. Vicki" that appears in the Washington Times, the Fort Campbell Courier and the Heidelberg Herald Post. Ms. Vicki also hosts an internet radio show and blogs on her community site with the Washington Times. If you want to ask Ms. Vicki for advice about your military life, please email her at AskMsVicki@military-inc.com.
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