Couples deal with multiple stressors: family, occupation and work stress, completing educational programs, raising children, and financial stress. These dynamics can put a big strain on communication by increasing the likelihood of arguments. This causes an increase in isolation and avoidance, which decreases physical connection and intimacy.
These concerns can become exacerbated for military couples because they cope with multiple deployments, long separations because of schools and trainings, and many transitions due to relocations.
It is very important to keep the lines of communication open, with healthy dialogue. Here are Ms. Vicki's top 5 quick tips.
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Ms. Vicki is a native of Dallas, is married to an active-duty Soldier and has three sons. She has a Master's of Science in Social Work from the University of Louisville, is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and currently works as a therapist with military servicemembers and their families. She provides services for a wide array of concerns such as combat stress, PTSD, couples and marital problems, depression, grief and loss, stress and coping.
Ms. Vicki also writes an advice column "Dear Ms. Vicki" that appears in the Washington Times, the Fort Campbell Courier and the Heidelberg Herald Post. Ms. Vicki also hosts an internet radio show and blogs on her community site with the Washington Times. If you want to ask Ms. Vicki for advice about your military life, please email her at AskMsVicki@military-inc.com.
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