For a three-month period I polled 80 women ages 50-65 and I asked this question: Do you like your daughter-in-law? 90 percent of the women said NO. Some even said "I despise her." Other responses included "She's despicable" and "I can't stand being around her." When I asked, "If you don't like your daughter-in-law tell me why," I received four common reasons below.
If you're a Diva-In-Law you could be placing your marriage in jeopardy. Your husband will feel like he is in the middle of two women that he loves dearly: his wife and his mother. Children will notice your behavior too and will do one of two things: feel bad for their grandmother and join with her against you, or show disrespect towards their grandmother too. Both outcomes are tragic.
If you think your husband is a great guy, you have to remember he didn't raise himself. He was raised by the mother-in-law you can't stand to be around. If you find you're exhibiting one of the above behaviors, you may think about giving your mother-in-law a little more respect and courtesy.
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Ms. Vicki is a native of Dallas, is married to an active-duty Soldier and has three sons. She has a Master's of Science in Social Work from the University of Louisville, is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and currently works as a therapist with military servicemembers and their families. She provides services for a wide array of concerns such as combat stress, PTSD, couples and marital problems, depression, grief and loss, stress and coping.
Ms. Vicki also writes an advice column "Dear Ms. Vicki" that appears in the Washington Times, the Fort Campbell Courier and the Heidelberg Herald Post. Ms. Vicki also hosts an internet radio show and blogs on her community site with the Washington Times. If you want to ask Ms. Vicki for advice about your military life, please email her at AskMsVicki@military-inc.com.
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