by
Susanna Hickman Bartee
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Being the new kid is never easy and making new friends can be intimidating even for the most out-going child. In today's world of fast-paced activities and constant mobility, rare is the life-long friendship of next-door neighbor kids who toddle into preschool together and don't hug good-bye until high school graduation. More likely there are new people in and out of your child's life and it is your job to help him or her meet friends and build relationships that matter.
Here are some simple ways to make the process easier for you both:
Meet your neighbors. If you are new to a neighborhood, you cannot simply wait for others to ring your doorbell and welcome you. Take a walk up and down your street and go ahead and introduce yourself and your kids. You might find a playmate, a babysitter or a best friend this way. But you have to knock before the door is opened.
Go to church. This should be a priority for many reasons. But it remains one of the best places to meet people who share your values and beliefs. Sunday School classes make it easy for kids to feel a part of a group and they are guaranteed at least one meeting each week. Most churches offer special youth group and family activities too.
Join a team. Whether your child is already a semi-pro soccer player or is just taking up softball, playing on a team provides instant association with a group. Practices and games will keep you both busy which is a good thing when you are new to an area.
Join a club. This gives you many of the same benefits as joining a team. Find something your child really likes games, camping or music, for instance and watch them grow as well as make friends with the same interests.
Host a party. This is a great remedy for all lonely kids, no matter the age. You don't even need a birthday as an excuse! Help your teenager plan a murder mystery dinner party for classmates or invite a toddler playgroup over to decorate cookies. The theme is not nearly as important as the opportunity to strengthen new relationships.
Enlist the help of a teacher. Ask the new teacher to pair your child up with another student who may have some common interests. Just do it discreetly so as not to embarrass your child. Most teachers are happy to help in this way.
Keep in touch. While you are helping your child make new friends quickly, remind her that old friends cannot be replaced. Writing and calling is important for your child, as well as for the friend left behind.
When it comes to relationships, that old Girl Scout campfire song was on to something:
Make new friends, but keep the old. One is silver and the other gold.
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