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How Military Marriage Screws Up Your Career

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Every month I get letters from Milsos, brides and the occasional boyfriend about military spouse employment. They are terrified of turning into hausfraus -- especially the guys.

I have dreams! 

I’ve been working on my resume!

My Marine is going to request San Diego!

So the military won’t be a problem, will it???

This, I think, is why I dream of Xanax.

But the first rule of military spousehood is that self-medicating never, ever works.

That only postpones our ability to look squarely at the facts, sob, then make a plan. Here are the facts every career- minded Milso or milspouse needs to know as backed up by social science researchers who specialize in military families:

  1. Spouse employment IS one of the top areas of dissatisfaction for military spouses. In the military, spouse employment has become the symbol for marital stresses that come from financial problems, dissatisfaction with affordable off-post housing, and difficulties due to frequent relocations that are part of military life. That is NOT why you see spouse employment in the news.
  2. Hear me roar. As the rate of spouse employment has increased, so has the level of spouse influence on retention and retirement decisions. Spouses are now the No. 1 influencer on their servicemember. THAT is why you see spouse employment in the news.
  3. Military spouses are more likely to have college credits than civilians. According to Department of Defense figures, more than half of all military spouses have some college credits. Twenty-one percent of military spouses have four-year bachelor degrees. An additional eight percent have graduate degrees. This is not an uneducated, unemployable population.
  4. Spouses might need to work. Paying bills is the most frequently cited reason for spouses to work. Studies show that up to two-thirds of spouses of servicemembers in paygrades E-5 and below had financial difficulties and wanted and needed to work. Depending on your debt level and current expenses, needing to work strictly for the money is a factor in every paygrade.
  5. Spouses do feel a negative effect on their career due to the military. In a large Rand study, two-thirds of spouses interviewed felt that the military had a negative effect on career. Frequent moves, absence of the servicemember, cost of child care vs. wages, and employer bias were the most frequently cited reasons for this problem.
  6. This isn’t imaginary. Military spouses suffer a demonstrable difference in career attainment from their civilian counterparts. When compared with civilian wives matched by age, education, race and geographic location, military wives are less likely to work in a given year, work fewer weeks per year, and are less likely to work full-time. Military wives also earn lower wages than matched civilian wives, whether salaried or hourly employees.
  7. Junior spouses don’t feel the problem. At first, junior spouses don’t have a problem with spouse employment.  They are more likely to be looking for entry-level work. They are less likely to have children. They are less likely to have moved multiple times.
  8. Senior spouses feel the pain. By the time you get to be a senior officer spouse, a full three-quarters of all spouses felt the military was a hindrance to their career. The more moves you experience, the higher paying the job, the harder it is to have a career instead of a job.

Feeling depressed yet? Well, don’t be. Remember that military spouses do work all over the country. According to 2010 DoD figures, 41 percent of officer spouses and 43 percent of enlisted spouses work.

Just like you, they figure it out. They meet these barriers to their employment and they start to massage their bargain and work their plan.

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Jacey Eckhart is the former Director of Spouse and Family Programs at Military.com and a military sociologist.  Since 1996, Eckhart’s take on military families has been featured in her syndicated column, her book The Homefront Club, and her award winning CDs These Boots and I Married a Spartan??

Most recently she has been featured as a military family subject matter expert on NBC Dateline, CBS morning news, CNN, NPR and the New York Times.  Eckhart is an Air Force brat, a Navy wife and an Army mom.  

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