I happen to know from experience that military spouses can network like nobody’s business when it comes to finding exactly what we need in a new community. Babysitters, hair stylists, the best margaritas and the fastest oil change in town can be had in no time. So why then, do so many of us have difficulty with effectively networking during our job search?

We have very busy lives. And to make matters worse, technology lures us into doing more and more things, and doing them faster and faster. It’s not our fault our attention spans are shorter than ever. However, when it comes to networking for professional purposes, the fast and furious approach just doesn’t work.  And so, I challenge you to use these five steps to a simple and effective approach to networking.

1.) Have a plan:
Resist the urge to send out a mass email asking every person you ever met to let you know if they are aware of any job openings in your new location.  Instead, create a list of select people you know to have contacts in your desired profession and contact them individually.

2.) Write a script:
As elementary and awkward as it may seem, you have to write down what you would say to any networking contact whether it is on the telephone or in person. Give yourself time to develop something comfortable, practice it, and edit it until it feels natural, succinct, and uncomplicated. Always mention who referred you. 

3.) Ask for what you want (Just don’t ask for a job):
Hello, Ms. Brown, my name is Pamela McBride.  Juanita Malloy suggested I call you because I am exploring my career field options as I plan for my relocation to Texas later this year.  I would like to broaden my experience in the counseling field by working with small children. Up to now I have worked with teens and young adults. What local organizations and professionals can you recommend I call?

With this approach the person won’t feel as though you put him or her on the spot. Chances are, if she works in this field or a related one, she will have specific points of contact to share. If not, then surely she can name a few local organizations that would be helpful.  Remember, never ask for a job. After all, how many people actually have one to give you?  Keep the request focused on referrals, information, feedback or advice, things almost everyone has and are willing to share.

4.) Set the stage for follow up:
Leave the door open for further communication. And, to increase your chances at successful follow up, make sure you are the one who is expected to make the next move.

Here's an ideal follow-up statement: Thank you for your time and information. I will follow up with these leads. In the meantime, I will send you a brief note with my contact information and summary of my work experience just in case anything else comes to mind. Then, if it’s ok with you, I will check back with you in a week or so.

5.) Keep the conversation brief: 
Not only is your contact’s schedule likely to be full, but so is yours. Move on to the next networking contact while you are on a roll.

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