Everywhere you look this time of the year there are reminders of the season: stores brimming with the latest gadgets and gifts, garland hanging from the aisles, strands of lights decorating buildings, advertisements with pictures of Santa, the smell of peppermint and cinnamon in the air, the holiday frenzy. It’s nearly impossible to not notice all of the holiday hustle and bustle. When someone you love is away it can be almost too much to bear.

There is no question that military families are resilient and resourceful. When you miss your Soldier, other people’s joy and celebration can easily result in stress and depression for you. It’s normal for your entire family to face some emotional challenges during the holiday season. Let your family know that it's okay to talk about feelings. Putting on a brave face usually backfires. Military families near or on an installation have the benefit of having their “military family” nearby, but those that live far from a base often feel isolated. The presence of extended family can be comforting as well. Regardless of whom you feel closest too, it’s okay to ask for support.

If your Soldier is MIA during this holiday season try a few of the following suggestions to make the best of this Christmas.

Celebrate across the miles. Find ways for your family to connect despite their location. Utilize technology, such as a speakerphone during present opening or Webcam on Christmas Eve. Write letters and send themed care packages. Have your deployed loved-one read a holiday-themed book for your child or exchange gifts long distance. Better yet, create a flat daddy (life-sized image on foam board) or mommy to have at the holiday dinner table and for pictures.

Honor traditions. Don't underestimate the importance of traditions. It may seem as though you can’t go on without your Soldier, however, traditions will benefit you and your children. What’s more, your deployed loved-one will know that things are going on as normal back home. Keep up family traditions as best as you know how.

Create new traditions. Honoring traditions is important, but there's nothing wrong with starting new ones either. Last year when my husband was deployed we were unable to decorate like we normally would. Instead, we started a tradition of decorating a live tree with homemade ornaments.

Count your blessings. A positive perspective can quiet even the biggest Grinch. This is a perfect time to reflect on all that is good in your life. Sit down and make a list of the things you’re thankful for, and how much you’ve learned and experienced on this journey. Take the time to acknowledge and treasure the blessings you've been given.

Spread the cheer. One of the best ways to curb your own sadness is to focus on helping others. While we often feel we have enough on our hands just taking care of ourselves, reaching out and helping someone else can really change a person’s perspective. Consider helping a new military family, donating toys, visiting a nursing home, or simply vowing to genuinely wish everyone you see a happy holiday season.

Create a “makeshift” family. It’s probably not a surprise to you that yours is not the only military family spending the holiday without their deployed loved-one. Look around you and organize a “makeshift” family holiday celebration. 
Remember, there is one thing that will warm your heart until your family is back together again, and that is that nothing stops time. Enjoy what you have today for tomorrow is just around the bend. 

To connect with other spouses who are on their own for the holidays, visit Military.com's Spouse Network.