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Deja Knew
Peter Weddle | August 07, 2006

We’ve all experienced “déjà vu,” that eerie feeling that we’re seeing or experiencing something in the present that we’ve seen or experienced at some indeterminate point in the past. It’s like doing reality all over again. Now, these past episodes probably won’t do us much good in a job search, but our past contacts will. The trick, of course, is to find them, and that’s best done in a process I call “deja knew.” The goal is to connect in the present with the people whom we knew in the past.

Most of us are aware that the best opportunities in the job market are often filled by networking. And, most of us, as a consequence, make a genuine effort to reach out to whatever contacts we have when we’re looking for a new or better position. The problem is that we limit the scope of our effort.

Basically, we all have three kinds of contacts:

  • People we know and contact frequently.
  • People we don’t know but with whom we are put in touch by someone we do know.
  • People we know and but do not call.

Experience suggests that we tend to focus on the first and second category of contact, probably because we feel as if they are more near-at-hand and potentially more useful. However, that third category  — the people we knew in the past but have lost touch with in the present — can be a wonderful source of information and job leads.

Who are these candidates for “deja knew?”  They include former:

  • Teachers
  • Bosses
  • Colleagues at work
  • College roommates
  • Teammates
  • Sorority sisters
  • Fraternity brothers
  • Club friends
  • Significant others
  • Or others less significant

How can we connect with them? The Internet offers a number of tools that can be very helpful. I recommend that you start with the following three free resources:

http://www.theultimates.com

This resource offers a White Pages, a Yellow Pages, an e-mail directory and more. If you know where a former contact lives, use the White Pages to find the telephone number and address of anyone living in the United States.  If you know where the person works, use the Yellow Pages to find the contact information for any business in the U.S. If you don’t know where your former contact lives or works, try the e-mail directory.

http://www.google.com

Google Residential Phonebook. This resource lists the residential telephone number for just about anyone living in the United States, including many numbers that are supposed to be unlisted. Although The Ultimates also claims to provide unlisted as well as listed numbers, I’ve found that the Google directory is better.

To use this feature, visit the Google Home Page and enter the following command into the Search box: the person’s last name, the city where they live. For example, if your first boss, 10 years ago, was Jane Thomas and you think she is still living in Austin, Texas, you would enter rphonebook: Thomas, Austin.

If you have no idea where your former contacts are living or working, try searching for them by name in Military.com's Buddy Finder or Veteran Career Network database.

Finally, a word of caution about the “deja knew” process. Be aware that your former friend or colleague may not remember you as well as you remember them.  Therefore, when you first communicate with them, begin your e-mail message or phone call with a brief but clear reference to your prior relationship. Explain why you are contacting them. However, don’t put them on the spot by asking them if they can connect you with an employment opportunity. Instead, ask for their counsel and suggestions on how best to advance your job search. Show them that simple courtesy, and your contacts in the past might just become some of your most important contacts all over again in the present.

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Copyright 2009 Peter Weddle. All opinions expressed in this article are the author's and do not necessarily reflect those of Military.com.

 
About Peter Weddle

Peter Weddle is an Army veteran and business CEO turned author and commen-tator. He has written or edited over two dozen books and penned columns for The Wall Street Journal and CNN. He has been a guest on The Today Show, CBS This Morning, the McLaughlin Group, Bloomberg Financial News and other television and radio programs and is often quoted in the national media.

WEDDLE's is a book publishing company that specializes in resources for job seekers and career activists. Called the "Zagat of job boards," it produces annual guides to the 40,000 employment sites now operating on the Internet as well as other publications designed to help people increase the satisfaction and the paycheck they bring home from work each month.

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