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Story and photo by Marine Sgt.
Eric Lucero
Defend America
June 17, 2004
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| C.J.
D’Alesandro and his father Terence take time out for photos with
the Marines of Recruiting after CJ’s high school graduation.
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6TH MARINE CORPS DISTRICT, S.C., June 2, 2004 — It’s not unusual for a
father to be extensively involved in his son’s decisions especially one
that will send his precious offspring down one of life’s most arduous
journeys, like Marine
Corps recruit training. What is unusual, however, is for that parent
to follow the child on that journey.
C.J. D’Alesandro joined the Delayed Entry Program earlier this year after
many conversations with Sgt. Brandon Jamison, canvassing recruiter for
Recruiting Substation Columbia, S.C.
Four months after C.J. made the decision to join, his father, Terence,
36, made the same commitment, also after talking with Jamison.
For Terence, the decision was easier than it may seem. He had already
served more than six years in the Marine Corps, from 1990 through 1996.
Leaving the Corps in 1996 was a tougher decision. Terence was thrust into
a situation where he had to decide between taking orders that would land
him overseas, or leaving the Corps and drudging through a long, pain-staking
process of obtaining full custody of his teenage son.
The decision to leave the Marine Corps had been tearing at him for the
better part of eight years.
“C.J.’s mother asked if I could take him for a while when he was close
to about 13 years old,” said Terence. “I was getting ready to get orders
overseas and knew taking over custody and having to leave him with someone
while I went overseas would be wrong.”
After leaving the Corps, Terence took a civilian job, finished his degree
in sociology from South Carolina State University and most importantly,
began to build a relationship with his son.
“Going from being single to living with a 13-year-old young man was a
bit of a transition for me,”Terence said smiling. “It was something I
was clueless about.”
C.J.’s approach to the matter didn’t exactly help.
“I was a little hardheaded,” C.J. said grinning. “I was 13 and thought
I knew everything.”
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Three-and-a-half years later, the two had forged
a strong bond.
“We talked about everything,” said Terence. “He even told me all about
wanting to join the Army.”
Terence’s support for his son’s decision was immediate and unconditional.
“I told him that if he wanted to be part of something fraternal like a
brotherhood, he should join the Marines,” he said. “After that, I told
him I would back any decision he came to.”
After much soul searching and talking with Army recruiters, C.J. ultimately
made the decision to join the Marines.
Days later, C.J. was in the Delayed Entry Program and Terence was left
with a familiar taste in his mouth.
“Being around the recruiters made me miss the Corps,” he said. “The conversations
we had made me miss the guys back in the Fleet. You don’t make friends
out in the civilian world the way you do while in the Corps.”
The longing to belong again put Terence in the same chair his son sat
in just three months earlier. After putting in a package to enlist once
more in mid-April, he was accepted.
The chance to share many things is common among fathers and sons. Sharing
the same Marine Corps recruiter,however, is not. After all, it’s not every
day a son gets credit for referring his father to a recruiter.
Terence is now awaiting orders to report to the School of Infantry while
his son is assigned to Company E, 2nd Recruit Training Battalion, Marine
Corps Recruit Depot, Parris Island, S.C.
C.J. is scheduled to graduate Sept. 10.
“It’ll be a great day for me,” Terence said. “It’s not like I’ll be losing
my son to the Corps, I’ll be gaining a brother.”
© 2004 Defend
America . All opinions expressed in this article are the author's
and do not necessarily reflect those of Military.com.
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